As spring approaches, it’s not only the start of moving season, but the start of wedding season, too. And if you’re getting married this year, the actual wedding might not be what’s giving you stress: it’s likely to be moving in together. If you don’t already live with your soon-to-be-spouse, there’s a lot to consider. Here are a few practical tips for moving in together.
If you can, start fresh.
It’s not always possible, but if neither of you own your current place, the best option for your marriage might be to rent or purchase a new home together. That way, one person won’t feel like they are moving into the other’s space, and there won’t be any resentment over having to share or reinvent a space that was formerly all yours.
Have a plan.
For your stuff, that is. If you’ve both lived on your own for most of your adult lives, then there’s a good chance you’ll have plenty of double items like irons, frying pans, toasters–even larger items like sofas and mattresses. All of which mean big-time clutter is you don’t do some strategic purging. To make the process easy and objective, decide that you’ll keep whichever item is in better condition, and then donate or dump the rest.
Let go a little.
The key to a happy relationship in almost every area is compromise. Which means that, even though you might think your partner’s childhood trophy collections are a little less special that he does, if it means a lot that he keeps them, embrace it. Think of it as good practice for the years ahead.
Make it easy.
If you’re planning to make the move around the time of your wedding, the key is to simplify, simplify, simplify. Moves are stressful, and hiring a reputable, full-service moving company can make the process infinitely easier. Movers make a chaotic change a turnkey process.
Good luck with your big move!